Life is full of crossroads. Whether it’s your career, relationships, or personal growth, the uncertainty of making the “right” choice can be paralyzing. We analyze, overthink, and often end up stuck in the same place. But what if I told you that making your next move—no matter how big or small—only requires answering two key questions?
Yes, just two.
These questions strip away the noise, clear your mental clutter, and get you to the core of what truly matters. They work because they tap into both your logic and intuition, giving you a framework that’s simple yet powerful.
If you’re feeling stuck or unsure about your next step, ask yourself:
- What do I want?
- What is stopping me?
Let’s break these down and explore how they can unlock the clarity you need.
Question 1: What Do I Want?
This seems obvious, right? But you’d be surprised how many people struggle with this question. Often, we focus on what we should want—what society, family, or our past selves expect from us—rather than what we truly desire.
So, let’s redefine the question:
- If there were no limitations, what would you choose?
- What excites you?
- What do you daydream about when no one is watching?
- What kind of person do you want to become?
Most of the time, we don’t lack direction because we have too few options, but because we have too many. We get lost in distractions and other people’s expectations. The key to answering this question honestly is brutal self-awareness.
How to Find Your Real Answer
- Write Without Editing: Set a timer for 10 minutes and write everything that comes to mind when you ask yourself, “What do I want?” Don’t filter or judge—just let your thoughts flow.
- Look at Your Patterns: What books, articles, or videos do you naturally gravitate toward? What topics do you always end up discussing?
- Reverse Engineer Joy: Think about moments when you felt truly alive. What were you doing? Who were you with? What was the setting?
At its core, this question forces you to step away from autopilot mode and take ownership of your direction.
Question 2: What Is Stopping Me?
Once you know what you want, the next logical step is action. But this is where most people hit a wall. They get stuck in fear, doubt, or excuses. This question exposes the invisible barriers holding you back.
The 3 Major Roadblocks
Fear of Failure
- What if I mess up?
- What if people judge me?
- What if I’m not good enough?
The truth: Everyone fails. Everyone starts as a beginner. Every expert was once clueless. The sooner you accept failure as part of the process, the sooner you can move forward.
Lack of Resources (Time, Money, Skills)
- “I don’t have the time.”
- “I can’t afford it.”
- “I don’t have the skills.”
The truth: Most people overestimate what they need to start. There’s always a smaller step you can take. Learn for free online, wake up 30 minutes earlier, start with what you have.
Limiting Beliefs
- “I’m not the kind of person who can do this.”
- “It’s too late for me.”
- “People like me don’t succeed in this field.”
The truth: The stories you tell yourself shape your reality. Challenge these beliefs. Find people who have done what you want to do and study their journey.
How to Break Through
- Reframe the Fear: Instead of thinking, “What if I fail?” ask, “What if I succeed?”
- Find the Smallest Step: Instead of waiting for the perfect moment, ask, “What’s the tiniest action I can take today?”
- Challenge Your Excuses: Every successful person has faced obstacles. The difference? They didn’t let those excuses define them.
The Magic of These Two Questions
By combining “What do I want?” with “What is stopping me?”, you get a clear path:
- You identify your true goal.
- You uncover the roadblocks.
- You start removing those roadblocks, one by one.
This method works because it simplifies decision-making. Instead of waiting for a perfect plan, you focus on what actually matters: Clarity + Action.
So, what’s your next move? Answer the two questions, and you’ll know. 🚀
